2021.12.07 15:13 FrozenSandwichHater Did/Do you have a lot of expectations for your twenties?
I am 27, and one thing I've found is that most people have a lot of expectations for their twenties. Like, a lot, and most people I ask about this feel they've failed in one way or another.
I didn't have a good time in my teens and mid-twenties. Difficult divorce, mom's abusive boyfriends, I was very overweight and depressed. Sometimes (young) people online imply that I'm about done with the "prime of my life". I admit to getting really down because I didn't make a lot of ground dating and having sex - I mean, I have done those things, but I haven't had any of the adventures I thought I would.
I broke up with my ex of two years. First relationship for me, but he was bringing me down so much. He acted like his life was basically over once he turned 30. He would bitch about this and everything else constantly. Totally lost his sex drive early on and only talked about how he was unattractive - he'd say shit about my appearance to and it became too much. I'm prone to depression and have to make an effort to stay positive - he made that very difficult. He would make comments that I missed my chance to have a good time - he was pretty much a loser and I think he was jealous.
When I reflect - I have done so much. I lost the weight I struggled with from age 11-23, and I'm starting to lift weights. I've finished my education, have a career with great benefits. I'm not as sexually adventurous as I'd like to be - I need to lose my pandemic/breakup/depression weight and start lifting again, I also need to trust that when guys say they're into me, they mean it.
I just see all these tiktoks of muscle gays dancing in clubs and doing party drugs in the bathroom, saying they're a decade younger than they look (it's the drugs or the gear I guess). I really wanted a life like that - I'd watch Queer as Folk as a kid and think I wanted to be there.
I had a lot of expectations for my twenties. I really have not met most of those. But I have made some amazing achievements that have nothing to do with those expectations.
Sometimes I need to take a step back and count my blessings, and recognize what I've built for myself.
I've decided to use my career and advantages as an adult to move to a more happening location in a year or two, so I can experience a gay club, bath house, invite grindr guys over, etc. I worked really hard up to this point and want to enjoy my life now.
People just say things that imply that part of life is over when you're around 30. I found that I'm better looking than ever, have more money, and more freedom to do what I want than when I was younger.
How do you feel about the general obsession with this decade?
How did growing/aging change your perspective?
Many genuinely do have their best time in their twenties and I'm not trying to shit on that, I just don't like the implication that once we turn 30 we become sad and old, when we're still very young and alive - especially those of us smart enough to avoid children/marriage/mortgages by that time. lol
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2021.12.07 15:13 WellisCute What would you improve with 500 Euro in this PC?
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2021.12.07 15:13 heitz15 Need Telegram mod that allows many accounts (that isnt Telegram X)
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2021.12.07 15:13 throwitinthebin--- I really don't wanna live.
English is my second language, so please forgive any grammatical mistake.
I seriously don't want to live. Everything feels overwhelming and pointless. My life has been pretty shitty, but I always tried to make the best of it, but now it feels like nothing I do will make me feel better. Killing myself seems like the only way to stop feeling this way.
I've tried to tell my siblings how I feel, but they just brush it off as a phase and that I'll get over it, and it makes me feel extremely hurt and alone. We all lived through the same shitty and troubled childhood, but I always felt excluded and alienated. When my dad arrived home drunk or drugged and got violent, they never comforted me or even tried to protect me. And whenever I tried to tell them about how I felt alone and like I was left behind, they got angry and told me how they had it so much worse and that I should be grateful for how much more privileged I was. Even now that they've grown up and are much more mature they still think the same way, the only thing that has changed is that they don't say it as openly as before.
I don't look like them at all, we don't even share the same skin color, but I never felt different from them since we shared the same experiences. I guess I was the only one that thought that way.
I don't know, I just feel extremely alone and hopeless, and I wanted to get this out of my system. I doubt I'm going to actually kill myself, but I have too many problems and suicide seems like the only solution to them.
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